super-sandri:

Do you ever just look at this fandom’s obsession with Marco Bodt and just think: "Why?" 

kuunakullanvalkeana:

i wonder if the ‘me and my best friend act more lesbian than lesbians do’ idiot and other ‘lol we’re such lesbos <333’ straight girls realise that the reason why they’re seemingly acting ‘more lesbian’ might be that real lesbians often avoid PDA in fear of homophobic harassment and assault, whereas straight girls acting cuddly and cutesy with each other is considered sweet/sexy. you might stop ‘acting more lesbian’ too if you were actually perceived as one.

I didn’t want to ink that drawing

but then I lost it because I overwrote the file

and now I’m inking the drawing

enjol-ras:

Whenever I see “write one interesting fact about yourself” I immediately forget everything that I’ve done and seen ever

scruffy-owl:

scruffy-owl:

~Commissionsss~

AS mentioned in the other post I am now in DIRE need of cash and fast because my stupid banks put me in debt, and now I face being charged daily and I just. cant afford it ><. so any help  (signal boost or commissioner) would be massively appreciated.

Starting prices for these are $15 and include one character in whatever background.

You want a dominant colour? Just ask!

I work to A4 size digitally, if you want the size altered slightly/ sayy for a desktop background for example, then let me know!

Otherwise pieces will be given at 707 x1000px

If interested, note me! :D *rolls away*

Will do: fanart, male, female, mild anthro, partial nudity,

Wont do: full anthro, animals, full nudity @___@;

Signal Boosts Appreciated ;n;

reblogging again because I really need all the help I can get ><.

Desperate times (Signal boost this PLEASE)

scruffy-owl:

Thanks to my bank being a bag of dicks, I’m suddenly in debt and am now in DIRE need of cash because money isn’t coming in quickly enough in other areas I’m right between a really tough situation.

*literally my banks put me in debt! And this bank pulls this shit often and I’m shaking because they KNOW there’s nothing I can do about it).

So Please Please PLEASE signal boost my commissions post, and if anyone can spare anything just note me and we can work something out, every style you see in my gallery is up for grabs right now I just, really need your help.

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A post for men about creepy men

redcloud:

realsocialskills:

I wrote a post a while back about how some people are very good at getting away with doing intentionally creepy things by passing themselves off as just ~awkward~.

Recently, I noticed a particular pattern that plays out. While creeps can be any gender, there’s a gendered pattern by which creepy men get other men to help them be creepy:

  • A guy runs over the boundaries of women constantly
  • He makes them very uncomfortable and creeped out
  • But he doesn’t do that to guys, and
  • He doesn’t talk to guys about it in an unambiguous way, and
  • When he does it in front of guys, he finds a way to make it look deniable
  • And then some women complain to a man, maybe even a man in charge who is supposed to be responsible for preventing abuse in a space
  • and he has no idea what they are talking about, since he’s never the target or witness
  • And he’s had a lot of pleasant interactions with that guy
  • So he sympathizes with him, and thinks he must mean well but be have trouble with social skills
  • And then takes no action to get him to stop or to protect women
  • And so the group stays a place that is safe for predatory men, but not for the women they target

For example:

  • Mary, Jill, and Susan: Bill, Bob’s been making all of us really uncomfortable. He’s been sitting way too close, making innuendo after everything we say, and making excuses to touch us.
  • Bill: Wow, I’m surprised to hear that. Bob’s a nice guy, but he’s a little awkward. I’m sure he doesn’t mean anything by it. I’m not comfortable accusing him of something so serious from my position of authority.

What went wrong here?

  • Bill assumed that, if Bob was actually doing something wrong, he would have noticed.
  • Bill didn’t think he needed to listen to the women who were telling him about Bob’s creepy actions. He didn’t take seriously the possibility that they were right. 
  • Bill assumed that women who were uncomfortable with Bob must be at fault; that they must be judging him too harshly or not understanding his awkwardness
  • Bill told women that he didn’t think that several women complaining about a guy was sufficient reason to think something was wrong
  • Bill assumed that innocently awkward men should not be confronted about inadvertantly creepy things they do, but rather women should shut up and let them be creepy

A rule of thumb for men:

  • If several women come to you saying that a man is being creepy towards them, assume that they are seeing something you aren’t
  • Listen to them about what they tell you
  • If you like the guy and have no idea what they’re talking about, that means that what he is doing is *not* innocent awkwardness.
  • If it was innocent awkwardness, he wouldn’t know how to hide it from other men
  • Men who are actually just awkward and bad at understanding boundaries also make *other men* uncomfortable
  • If a man is only making women uncomfortable but not men, that probably means he’s doing it on purpose
  • Take that possibility seriously, and listen to what women tell you about men

tl;dr If you are a man, other men in your circle who are nice to you are creepy towards women. Don’t assume that if something was wrong that you would have noticed; creepy men are good at finding the lines of what other men will tolerate. Listen to women. They know better than you do whether a man is being creepy and threatening towards women; if they think something is wrong, listen and find out why. Don’t tolerate give predatory dudes who are nice to you cover to keep hurting women.

Food for thought, men. I know I’ve been guilty of this. I resolve to do better.

I won’t stop until I see them all

LOOK HOW CUTE IT IS

When the same ppl try to help women park but do nothing about men.

megaechoid:

when theres no fic for your otp

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